Our society is morally bankrupt. The value of a human life has been degraded to nothing through the things like porn/soft-porn of GGW (Girls Gone Wild),sex traficking and abortion. It all goes together. What we don't understand is that it is like a butterfly effect. One girl flashes her tata's in Lubbock (igniting or fanning the flame of lust in men, a guy in Minnesota buys the video, a guy in Asia kidnaps women and sells them into prostitution, she gets pregnant and is forced to abort. Women are then devalued and feel like the only thing ... valuable about them is their tata's and they start the whole cycle all over again. We need to bring back modesty, human dignity, and value each other because of our inherent value as God's children! Their are haters out there who would say that I'm old fashioned or unfit to talk about this cause I'm fat. But that just proves my point. My value is not in my size 2 or 22 jeans. This is a justice issue at it's core. We must fight for justice in the area of entertainment. ***stepping off soap box now*** :)
The text above is all a quote from my post on facebook yesterday. As I was typing it I was reminded of a couple of weeks ago when I freaked out about the lack of Justice in a the TV show Glee. Now I love me some Glee and feel like it's on par for today's level of morality in America. You've got a token teenage pregnancy, a token gay/sexually confused boy, the vain cheerleaders, etc. In a recent episode, we find Kurt (the sexually confused boy) exploring the idea of redecorating his room to bring in a possible step brother, Finn (the all american boy), whom Kurt has a crush on. Finn repsonded to this situation horribly and made many crude remarks of anti-gay sentiments. Finn was rightly condemned (and I use that word lightly) for being a jerk. The problem though was the show did not adequately convey that Finn was not the only one in the wrong. If you are heterosexual and are put in a situation where you have to share a room with a homosexual that has a crush on you, it's gonna be awkward. For some reason this show felt like it wasn't ok to show that. While Kurt's feelings were glorified because he was being rejected, Finn's feelings were completely ignored. The lack of justice in this issue had me quite frusterated.
So it is with these two issues Girls Gone Wild and Glee, that I find myself being really frustrated by the lack of justice in entertainment. I've gotten quite used to the lack of morality and have reduced the amount of crap that I will watch because of it. But the lack of justice is fire to my rocket. I get hot over that issue. I guess I will always fight for the underdog.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
frugality part deux
So I printed off some coupons yesterday and went to the store. I bought some things that I wouldn't normally but wouldn't mind buying. I feel like my great deal of the day was 3 Lean Cuisine pizza's for $4. I would say in all I saved about $10.
Today I'm going to head to Walgreens and CVS and pick up some purchases there.
Living frugally emotionally is different though, at least for me.
I have to say that when a new friend (woman) comes into my life, it is easy to take it as it is and not hope or dream of us being the bestest of friends. I have grace for the situation and will let that chemistry develop naturally. However if that friend is a man, it becomes a very different story. I feel like that deep void in my heart that longs to be loved is like this ugly monster that comes out when a man comes around. I've really been wrestling with that, and keep talking to God about it. He's told me in no uncertain terms to just take things one day at a time and be prepared to take this relationship on a ride down the long haul. I feel like that is good advise for both my boy friend and for myself. I think we both need the time to develop friendship and trust with each other before we take it further. I was talking to a friend on the phone and she said, it's just easier to take things to a physical level and avoid the emotional stuff. That's so true, and so deadly. As I continue to engage God and bring Him into my day to day and process these fears and hopes, I find I want to avoid the emotions a whole lot (ie make out). Deep inside my heart though I know that I'd be robbing myself and him of something beautiful down the line.
After having a 20+ year relationship with my high school friend, and going through the emotional roller coaster there in, I swore to myself I would never have just another 'guy friend.' It's painful. It's painful to develop emotional intimacy and not have it progress to the next level of relationship. Of course in the ever popular 'When Harry met Sally' we grapple with whether or not men and women could actually be friends. I know he and I have certainly had our struggles in that area. Or rather, I have struggled in that area. I found myself being attracted to him in our early 20's and again was so desperate to be loved that I put us both into very compromising situations. Some boundaries were crossed, but by the grace of God we were able to maintain our friendship. Now, we have an incredible relationship and a deep intimacy that doesn't allow for hiding things. Such a relationship is hard to maintain and I have found myself being very jealous when he starts dating someone. Deep down though, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we would annoy the hell out of each other if we had to live together. We may end up in the same nursing home harassing each other in 60 years, but that's a long time from now.
He and I have discussed that men and women have different currencies by which we are paid (get charged up) and pay out (charge up someone else). Men have a physical currency and women have an emotional currency. I think this is where the trouble between male-female friendships really exists. Friendships by nature deal in an emotional currency. There is another very important component within this mix though, and that is that ultimately the way men and women are designed is to progress in intimacy. So women typically have to be wooed emotionally before they'll give themselves physically to a man, and many men find it easier to be emotionally intimate after their physical needs have been met. So for women the emotional stuff automatically leads to a desire to merge. When a man is emotional though, they don't have the natural instinct to follow it up with something. It usually is the follow up. Now I may be wrong, and am eager to have any man share his thoughts with me.
Ultimately what I'm trying to say is that it's "easy" to draw boundaries for physical intimacy outside of marriage, but it is very difficult to draw boundaries for emotional areas. My friend now makes a lot of awkward sexual jokes and inneuendos when he's with me. I feel like that type of conversation is really meant to be only between 'the guys' or between people with an expressed intention on someday fulfiling those sexual promises. But sexual jokes between men and women who are just friends is inappropriate. It certainly does not make me feel like a lady. It detracts from my value. I deserve to be cherished and protected. Of course in 2010, it's pretty hard to find someone who won't laugh at an innuendo. So I laugh, because I'm not sure how to communicate to him that I don't like it without hurting his feelings. Plus there's all the danged ambiguity in our relationship that makes this so messy.
That's all for now...be blessed!
Today I'm going to head to Walgreens and CVS and pick up some purchases there.
Living frugally emotionally is different though, at least for me.
I have to say that when a new friend (woman) comes into my life, it is easy to take it as it is and not hope or dream of us being the bestest of friends. I have grace for the situation and will let that chemistry develop naturally. However if that friend is a man, it becomes a very different story. I feel like that deep void in my heart that longs to be loved is like this ugly monster that comes out when a man comes around. I've really been wrestling with that, and keep talking to God about it. He's told me in no uncertain terms to just take things one day at a time and be prepared to take this relationship on a ride down the long haul. I feel like that is good advise for both my boy friend and for myself. I think we both need the time to develop friendship and trust with each other before we take it further. I was talking to a friend on the phone and she said, it's just easier to take things to a physical level and avoid the emotional stuff. That's so true, and so deadly. As I continue to engage God and bring Him into my day to day and process these fears and hopes, I find I want to avoid the emotions a whole lot (ie make out). Deep inside my heart though I know that I'd be robbing myself and him of something beautiful down the line.
After having a 20+ year relationship with my high school friend, and going through the emotional roller coaster there in, I swore to myself I would never have just another 'guy friend.' It's painful. It's painful to develop emotional intimacy and not have it progress to the next level of relationship. Of course in the ever popular 'When Harry met Sally' we grapple with whether or not men and women could actually be friends. I know he and I have certainly had our struggles in that area. Or rather, I have struggled in that area. I found myself being attracted to him in our early 20's and again was so desperate to be loved that I put us both into very compromising situations. Some boundaries were crossed, but by the grace of God we were able to maintain our friendship. Now, we have an incredible relationship and a deep intimacy that doesn't allow for hiding things. Such a relationship is hard to maintain and I have found myself being very jealous when he starts dating someone. Deep down though, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we would annoy the hell out of each other if we had to live together. We may end up in the same nursing home harassing each other in 60 years, but that's a long time from now.
He and I have discussed that men and women have different currencies by which we are paid (get charged up) and pay out (charge up someone else). Men have a physical currency and women have an emotional currency. I think this is where the trouble between male-female friendships really exists. Friendships by nature deal in an emotional currency. There is another very important component within this mix though, and that is that ultimately the way men and women are designed is to progress in intimacy. So women typically have to be wooed emotionally before they'll give themselves physically to a man, and many men find it easier to be emotionally intimate after their physical needs have been met. So for women the emotional stuff automatically leads to a desire to merge. When a man is emotional though, they don't have the natural instinct to follow it up with something. It usually is the follow up. Now I may be wrong, and am eager to have any man share his thoughts with me.
Ultimately what I'm trying to say is that it's "easy" to draw boundaries for physical intimacy outside of marriage, but it is very difficult to draw boundaries for emotional areas. My friend now makes a lot of awkward sexual jokes and inneuendos when he's with me. I feel like that type of conversation is really meant to be only between 'the guys' or between people with an expressed intention on someday fulfiling those sexual promises. But sexual jokes between men and women who are just friends is inappropriate. It certainly does not make me feel like a lady. It detracts from my value. I deserve to be cherished and protected. Of course in 2010, it's pretty hard to find someone who won't laugh at an innuendo. So I laugh, because I'm not sure how to communicate to him that I don't like it without hurting his feelings. Plus there's all the danged ambiguity in our relationship that makes this so messy.
That's all for now...be blessed!
Friday, June 11, 2010
frugal living: financially, emotionally and spiritually
I had some really brililant words typed out earlier, and then the internet crashed....so now I'm bitter and wordless.
The basic idea is that I am going to attempt to live on a budget and save some money buy couponing and getting things free. I'm learning how to live frugally by following the following blogs: The Rapt Northerner and Money Saving Mom.
I'm going to attempt to do couponing. My budget has been cut significantly by taking a minimum wage job of which I only work part time, while also switching to a major university where tuition costs are much higher. In the past I've been able to use the excess from grants and loans to pay some bills, but that will not be the cast next semester. So in anticipation of my purse being a bit tighter and in general just some preperation for all things that may lie ahead I feel like now is a good time to put some Prov 31 skills into action.
So here I go.
I'll let you know how it goes. I think the hardest part for me is going to be the forethought necessary to live this way as well as the discipline that comes with living a budgeted life. I'm treating this as a spiritual discipline though, and asking God to encounter me in this change. If you haven't ever heard of spiritual disciplines, I highly recommend Richard Foster's book "Celebration of Discipline". Another good one is "The Spirit of Disciplines" by Dallas Willard.
As I hinted at earlier, I believe the seasons are changing in my life and I am trying to adjust to all the new things going on in my world. I have found myself on a rollercoaster of emotions recently as I'm engaging in a slightly deeper friendship with a good guy friend. There is a significant amount of ambiguity going on, and I am quite sure I have felt every emotion because of said amiguity. This has really become an invitation to trust God in ways that my heart was not quite prepared to trust him. Learning to discern the difference between my hopes, expectations, God's will, and what things are ok to settle on and not feel cheated has been quite challenging. Needless to say, it has brought up fear, insecurities and old wounds that I was not prepared to deal with on this occasion. I tie this in with my decision to change my finances around because I believe the idea of living frugally is a way of stewarding what God has given you. We are called to steward our finances, which I think most people would understand. I think though, and maybe I'm crazy, that especially in the friendship/dating process there is a certain amount of stewarding our love and emotions so as not to spend them foolishly. I'm a lover. Always have been. I love people wholly and quickly. I have lived a life of putting the cart before the horse, and feel like I'm now seeing how strenous that is on a Godly relationship.
I have more thoughts, but I am about to get off work, so I must close and continue this later.
More frugal thoughts coming soon, until then be blessed!
The basic idea is that I am going to attempt to live on a budget and save some money buy couponing and getting things free. I'm learning how to live frugally by following the following blogs: The Rapt Northerner and Money Saving Mom.
I'm going to attempt to do couponing. My budget has been cut significantly by taking a minimum wage job of which I only work part time, while also switching to a major university where tuition costs are much higher. In the past I've been able to use the excess from grants and loans to pay some bills, but that will not be the cast next semester. So in anticipation of my purse being a bit tighter and in general just some preperation for all things that may lie ahead I feel like now is a good time to put some Prov 31 skills into action.
So here I go.
I'll let you know how it goes. I think the hardest part for me is going to be the forethought necessary to live this way as well as the discipline that comes with living a budgeted life. I'm treating this as a spiritual discipline though, and asking God to encounter me in this change. If you haven't ever heard of spiritual disciplines, I highly recommend Richard Foster's book "Celebration of Discipline". Another good one is "The Spirit of Disciplines" by Dallas Willard.
As I hinted at earlier, I believe the seasons are changing in my life and I am trying to adjust to all the new things going on in my world. I have found myself on a rollercoaster of emotions recently as I'm engaging in a slightly deeper friendship with a good guy friend. There is a significant amount of ambiguity going on, and I am quite sure I have felt every emotion because of said amiguity. This has really become an invitation to trust God in ways that my heart was not quite prepared to trust him. Learning to discern the difference between my hopes, expectations, God's will, and what things are ok to settle on and not feel cheated has been quite challenging. Needless to say, it has brought up fear, insecurities and old wounds that I was not prepared to deal with on this occasion. I tie this in with my decision to change my finances around because I believe the idea of living frugally is a way of stewarding what God has given you. We are called to steward our finances, which I think most people would understand. I think though, and maybe I'm crazy, that especially in the friendship/dating process there is a certain amount of stewarding our love and emotions so as not to spend them foolishly. I'm a lover. Always have been. I love people wholly and quickly. I have lived a life of putting the cart before the horse, and feel like I'm now seeing how strenous that is on a Godly relationship.
I have more thoughts, but I am about to get off work, so I must close and continue this later.
More frugal thoughts coming soon, until then be blessed!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
tension
It is hard to trust God when your dignity is at stake. It is hard to trust that He has your good in mind, when the only possible outcome is humiliation. It's hard to dream, to hold onto His promises, to believe... when the enemy comes and lies and says that God is a trickster. It reminds me of the words my friend Wendy Andrews wrote,
"A servant of the Lord visited them one day, when they “were old, advanced in age; Sarah was past childbearing,” and he spoke to them a confirmation of the Promise’s arrival: “I will surely return to you at this time next year; and behold, Sarah your wife will have a son.” And Sarah, listening in at the door of the tent, “laughed to herself” at the relaying of these words.
I know that laugh. It’s a little sarcastic and a tiny bit bitter. It’s self-protective, because it’s a lot safer to shrug off words whose reception would have to mean hope in what’s still unseen. If she chooses to believe but is wrong in the end, then she looks like an utter fool, and maybe worse yet, feels like onel. Her laugh is a little hopeless and despairing but not too far down that road, because living there for too long becomes completely unbearable. It’s so much easier to live a little dead, just coasting, pretty much along for the ride. The Lord said to Abraham, Sarah’s husband, “Why did Sarah laugh, “saying, ‘Shall I indeed bear a child, when I am so old?’
“Is anything too difficult for the Lord?”
Oh, these words pierce my heart. It’s a rhetorical question asked by the Creator and Author and Main Character in the Story whose End is quite settled. “Then the Lord took note of Sarah as He had said, and the Lord did for Sarah as He had promised. So Sarah conceived and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the appointed time of which God had spoken to him.” In this fulfillment of a 25-year Promise, God kindly watered Sarah’s a-little-bit-hardened-hear
“Is anything too difficult for the Lord?”
I don’t believe so. My head doesn’t believe so, I mean. My heart might disagree. That’s okay, though, because He has never been intimidated by what I can see with my eyes. He is very good at convincing me at the deepest level that He is kind and loving, not a trickster, that He is indeed taking note of me as He had said."
I want so badly to defend my honor, to speak plainly and definitively about my intentions, to reaffirm that it is my job to follow the leader of this dance but I cannot. I must remain in the tension, for to assert myself would be to force the issue of promise and I don't want to end up with an Ishamel in this situation.
Lord help me to trust you!
"A servant of the Lord visited them one day, when they “were old, advanced in age; Sarah was past childbearing,” and he spoke to them a confirmation of the Promise’s arrival: “I will surely return to you at this time next year; and behold, Sarah your wife will have a son.” And Sarah, listening in at the door of the tent, “laughed to herself” at the relaying of these words.
I know that laugh. It’s a little sarcastic and a tiny bit bitter. It’s self-protective, because it’s a lot safer to shrug off words whose reception would have to mean hope in what’s still unseen. If she chooses to believe but is wrong in the end, then she looks like an utter fool, and maybe worse yet, feels like onel. Her laugh is a little hopeless and despairing but not too far down that road, because living there for too long becomes completely unbearable. It’s so much easier to live a little dead, just coasting, pretty much along for the ride. The Lord said to Abraham, Sarah’s husband, “Why did Sarah laugh, “saying, ‘Shall I indeed bear a child, when I am so old?’
“Is anything too difficult for the Lord?”
Oh, these words pierce my heart. It’s a rhetorical question asked by the Creator and Author and Main Character in the Story whose End is quite settled. “Then the Lord took note of Sarah as He had said, and the Lord did for Sarah as He had promised. So Sarah conceived and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the appointed time of which God had spoken to him.” In this fulfillment of a 25-year Promise, God kindly watered Sarah’s a-little-bit-hardened-hear
“Is anything too difficult for the Lord?”
I don’t believe so. My head doesn’t believe so, I mean. My heart might disagree. That’s okay, though, because He has never been intimidated by what I can see with my eyes. He is very good at convincing me at the deepest level that He is kind and loving, not a trickster, that He is indeed taking note of me as He had said."
I want so badly to defend my honor, to speak plainly and definitively about my intentions, to reaffirm that it is my job to follow the leader of this dance but I cannot. I must remain in the tension, for to assert myself would be to force the issue of promise and I don't want to end up with an Ishamel in this situation.
Lord help me to trust you!
Monday, April 26, 2010
Blame it on MEve
Over the last week or so, I've realized what a self serving, undisciplined, hypocritical person I've become (have been for a long time). I know, you're thinking. Wow Jill, simma down now. But it's true. I used to be one who could belt out "I surrender All." and mean it. I was willing to sell any/everything, send my family up river, move to god forsaken territories for the sake of Christ. Not so much anymore. Somehow my 20's and early 30's have become a comfort seeking orgy. Not literal orgy, mind you. You can see the results of self gratification in my body, my finances, my unorganized house.
Ok, so my friend Sharina recommended a blog by Jon to me called "Stuff Christians Like." I had just started following him on Twitter, and didn't even know about the blog yet. Today's blog was about fasting. Oy Vey. Talk about a four letter word. Being a lover of words, though, I decide to look fast up in Websters. Here's what ole' Webby has to say about the word Fast:
There are 3 different words that Webster's defines Fast-1, Fast-2, Fast-3...this is some of the definitions of Fast-1 (adjectives)
Fast-2 (verb)
It seems to me that while looking at Fast-1 adjectives #7-14, we get the sense of being captured, attached to, anchored. The same is true in Fast-3.
So my observation is that Fast-2 (the verb) is acted out so that we may accomplish Fast-1/3. Do you think that's what God might want. For us to sacrifice things so that we may become anchored, captured, and attached to him alone.
So......................................................the question is, is this our motivation for fasting or the outcome? If it's the outcome, then why would you ever fast? Because troubles come up and we believe if we make sacrifices, it will please God? Well that seems awfully pagan. First god gets you to give up ice cream and next he's asking you to sacrifice your babies to him. That doesn't seem like the God of Abraham, Isaac....oh wait, well there was that one time when God told Abraham to sacrifice Isaac, but that's an anomaly. Clearly, being more deeply anchored is both the motivation and the outcome. I can see no other reason to submit to this torture.
People from the IHOP (Int'l House of Prayer not Pancakes) believe: Participation in regular fasting as a lifestyle necessitates a healthy lifestyle on days when food is not being fasted, and should include exercise and a proper diet. A “fasted lifestyle” is a disciplined lifestyle, in which we steward our bodies and time with wisdom and diligence. Fasting is not only abstention; it is an exchange where we abstain from certain things in order to “feast” on God’s Word and prayer, whereby the abundance of His grace is made more readily available to us. When undertaken with this type of commitment, a fasted lifestyle is sustainable on a long-term basis, just as it was for Daniel and his friends (Dan. 1). In fasting we are not trying to get something from God, but seeking to realign our hearts’ affections with His. In fasting we can more readily say, “We love you, Lord, more than anything in the world.” Lust of any kind is perverted worship, but fasting enables us to cleanse the sanctuary of our hearts from every other rival. Daniel prepared himself to receive revelation through fasting. More reasons to fast can be found at Bill Bright's website or in his book "The Transforming Power of Fasting and Prayer."
The reality is, I don't wanna fast. Why, because it will kill my flesh. It will hurt, it will be uncomfortable. But really it's more than that. There is a deep knowing, that what fasting or suffering of any kind does, is that it leads you to the end of yourself. The question is always what will we find? And that is where you will find in me a deep seated root of a Fear of Abandonment. I fear that I will be left alone by God upon seeing the reality of my depravity. Imagine walking into the deepest, darkest pit...Hell within your own soul, and being left there by God. Having no one to rescue you. That's what I fear. I don't know why. But I do. Fear has been said to mean, "False evidence appearing real." That's what a lie is. Fear is a lie. What I know to be true about the character of God is that He is a savior, He is faithful to save. Somewhere down in the deepest part of my heart though I believe differently. This lie/fear manifests by getting me to believe that I (or things I can control) am the only source of comfort and security. Therefore I eat to feel good. I sit in front of the computer playing facebook hours upon end, to feel good. I watch movies, I avoid painful situations. I believed a lie about the character of God, and then chose to be God myself. That's exactly what happened to Eve in the garden of Eden. The serpent accused the character of God (said He was withholding goodness from her), and told her that she could be like God if she ate the fruit. Wow. Good job Eve/Jill. Way to fall for the trap. Way to Perpetuate the first sin.
Ok, so my friend Sharina recommended a blog by Jon to me called "Stuff Christians Like." I had just started following him on Twitter, and didn't even know about the blog yet. Today's blog was about fasting. Oy Vey. Talk about a four letter word. Being a lover of words, though, I decide to look fast up in Websters. Here's what ole' Webby has to say about the word Fast:
There are 3 different words that Webster's defines Fast-1, Fast-2, Fast-3...this is some of the definitions of Fast-1 (adjectives)
7.resistant: acid-fast.
8.firmly fixed in place; not easily moved; securely attached.
9.held or caught firmly, so as to be unable to escape or be extricated: an animal fast in a trap.
10.firmly tied, as a knot.
11.closed and made secure, as a door, gate, or shutter.
12.such as to hold securely: to lay fast hold on a thing.
13.firm in adherence; loyal; devoted: fast friends.
14.permanent, lasting, or unchangeable: a fast color; a hard and fast rule.
Fast-2 (verb)
1.to abstain from all food.
2.to eat only sparingly or of certain kinds of food, esp. as a religious observance.
Fast-3 (noun)
1. a chain or rope for mooring a vessel. I didn't know what mooring meant, so I looked it up too:
Usually, moorings. one's stability or security: After the death of his wife he lost his moorings.
It seems to me that while looking at Fast-1 adjectives #7-14, we get the sense of being captured, attached to, anchored. The same is true in Fast-3.
So my observation is that Fast-2 (the verb) is acted out so that we may accomplish Fast-1/3. Do you think that's what God might want. For us to sacrifice things so that we may become anchored, captured, and attached to him alone.
So......................................................the question is, is this our motivation for fasting or the outcome? If it's the outcome, then why would you ever fast? Because troubles come up and we believe if we make sacrifices, it will please God? Well that seems awfully pagan. First god gets you to give up ice cream and next he's asking you to sacrifice your babies to him. That doesn't seem like the God of Abraham, Isaac....oh wait, well there was that one time when God told Abraham to sacrifice Isaac, but that's an anomaly. Clearly, being more deeply anchored is both the motivation and the outcome. I can see no other reason to submit to this torture.
People from the IHOP (Int'l House of Prayer not Pancakes) believe: Participation in regular fasting as a lifestyle necessitates a healthy lifestyle on days when food is not being fasted, and should include exercise and a proper diet. A “fasted lifestyle” is a disciplined lifestyle, in which we steward our bodies and time with wisdom and diligence. Fasting is not only abstention; it is an exchange where we abstain from certain things in order to “feast” on God’s Word and prayer, whereby the abundance of His grace is made more readily available to us. When undertaken with this type of commitment, a fasted lifestyle is sustainable on a long-term basis, just as it was for Daniel and his friends (Dan. 1). In fasting we are not trying to get something from God, but seeking to realign our hearts’ affections with His. In fasting we can more readily say, “We love you, Lord, more than anything in the world.” Lust of any kind is perverted worship, but fasting enables us to cleanse the sanctuary of our hearts from every other rival. Daniel prepared himself to receive revelation through fasting. More reasons to fast can be found at Bill Bright's website or in his book "The Transforming Power of Fasting and Prayer."
The reality is, I don't wanna fast. Why, because it will kill my flesh. It will hurt, it will be uncomfortable. But really it's more than that. There is a deep knowing, that what fasting or suffering of any kind does, is that it leads you to the end of yourself. The question is always what will we find? And that is where you will find in me a deep seated root of a Fear of Abandonment. I fear that I will be left alone by God upon seeing the reality of my depravity. Imagine walking into the deepest, darkest pit...Hell within your own soul, and being left there by God. Having no one to rescue you. That's what I fear. I don't know why. But I do. Fear has been said to mean, "False evidence appearing real." That's what a lie is. Fear is a lie. What I know to be true about the character of God is that He is a savior, He is faithful to save. Somewhere down in the deepest part of my heart though I believe differently. This lie/fear manifests by getting me to believe that I (or things I can control) am the only source of comfort and security. Therefore I eat to feel good. I sit in front of the computer playing facebook hours upon end, to feel good. I watch movies, I avoid painful situations. I believed a lie about the character of God, and then chose to be God myself. That's exactly what happened to Eve in the garden of Eden. The serpent accused the character of God (said He was withholding goodness from her), and told her that she could be like God if she ate the fruit. Wow. Good job Eve/Jill. Way to fall for the trap. Way to Perpetuate the first sin.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Now that I've freaked out.....
I will choose to continue to be grateful:
11. That God has provided this season of rest when my body, soul, spirit, needed it.
12. I'm thankful for rainy day weather that has allowed me to take a day of rest from school.
13. I'm thankful that tomorrow my good friend Erick and I get to spend the day together.
14. I'm grateful that my hunger to worship and spend time with God has come back in the last week.
15. I'm thankful that I am getting to spend some time with my good friend Shenai doing water aerobics and swimming. It has been good for my soul.
16. I'm grateful that God loves me.
17. I'm really grateful that I'm single. Sure I wouldn't mind dating someone, but I don't hate my life right now nor do I think I'm missing out. There are very few and far between moments these days when I think my life would be better with someone else.
18. I'm grateful that I serve a God who is faithful and dependable. His word says, "The pure in heart shall see God." I can trust him in that. His character is one that longs to reveal himself to his people. He is not far off, far away, and uninterested.
19. I'm grateful that people are interested in my unimportant life. People follow my voice on facebook, twitter, my blog. It's amazing. It's a blessing.
20. I'm grateful for the local honey I purchased last weekend, which is helping my allergies a whole bunch.
11. That God has provided this season of rest when my body, soul, spirit, needed it.
12. I'm thankful for rainy day weather that has allowed me to take a day of rest from school.
13. I'm thankful that tomorrow my good friend Erick and I get to spend the day together.
14. I'm grateful that my hunger to worship and spend time with God has come back in the last week.
15. I'm thankful that I am getting to spend some time with my good friend Shenai doing water aerobics and swimming. It has been good for my soul.
16. I'm grateful that God loves me.
17. I'm really grateful that I'm single. Sure I wouldn't mind dating someone, but I don't hate my life right now nor do I think I'm missing out. There are very few and far between moments these days when I think my life would be better with someone else.
18. I'm grateful that I serve a God who is faithful and dependable. His word says, "The pure in heart shall see God." I can trust him in that. His character is one that longs to reveal himself to his people. He is not far off, far away, and uninterested.
19. I'm grateful that people are interested in my unimportant life. People follow my voice on facebook, twitter, my blog. It's amazing. It's a blessing.
20. I'm grateful for the local honey I purchased last weekend, which is helping my allergies a whole bunch.
Lord, if you're listening.....HELP.
I just checked and as of right now, I have just enough money left to pay rent for May and to pay my electric bill. I've put in several applications for jobs. I took a test yesterday to be a census worker. Training starts April 26th. It will probably conflict with my school schedule.
I know God is faithful to provide. Maybe I'm feeling to casual about it, and am not desperately plowing the fields. For me this is a tension. The balance of trusting God to do his part, while not neglecting mine. It makes me think of the stupid thing you do at camp, when you stand on something high and fall back trusting the people below you will catch you. So stupid. What that has taught me is that, trust is about blind faith, jumping and believing He will do the rest. I essentially agree with that. The problem for me always comes into play that there are other principles that must be learned. For instance a few weeks ago, when the Lord clearly told me to quit spending money. But I didn't do it. My will got in the way. So after several trips to sonic, etc....now things are tense. Plus God is not going to take care of all of my needs, while I'm sitting around being lazy. And if there was ever a time in my life when it was justified to call me lazy...this is the time. My post pneumonia reclusive lifestyle has taken laziness to new heights. If it gratifies my flesh, I'm all about it. Sleep till whenever, get up whenever, eat whatever, sit and play on the computer literally for hours upon end.
I find it equally amusing, that I'm interested in buying a house for 20K in Abernathy, while I'm unemployed. I'm not technically unemployed. Technically I'm self employed. But my self pays me very sporadically. Anybody want to host a foreign exchange student? Or want to take a trip overseas? Let me know....my self can help you accomplish that.
So....good times. I've once again realized that what I need is a sugar daddy. Is it sacrilegious to think of God as a sugar daddy? I would think so too.
I don't know if you've noticed the Amazon ads in my blog, but it's just another way I can make some quick cash. So if there's a book you're planning on buying from Amazon. Tell me first, I'll write a blog about it and then you can use my link and make me money at the same time.
Ok, that's really all I have to say. This is starting to get too silly for my own good.
I know God is faithful to provide. Maybe I'm feeling to casual about it, and am not desperately plowing the fields. For me this is a tension. The balance of trusting God to do his part, while not neglecting mine. It makes me think of the stupid thing you do at camp, when you stand on something high and fall back trusting the people below you will catch you. So stupid. What that has taught me is that, trust is about blind faith, jumping and believing He will do the rest. I essentially agree with that. The problem for me always comes into play that there are other principles that must be learned. For instance a few weeks ago, when the Lord clearly told me to quit spending money. But I didn't do it. My will got in the way. So after several trips to sonic, etc....now things are tense. Plus God is not going to take care of all of my needs, while I'm sitting around being lazy. And if there was ever a time in my life when it was justified to call me lazy...this is the time. My post pneumonia reclusive lifestyle has taken laziness to new heights. If it gratifies my flesh, I'm all about it. Sleep till whenever, get up whenever, eat whatever, sit and play on the computer literally for hours upon end.
I find it equally amusing, that I'm interested in buying a house for 20K in Abernathy, while I'm unemployed. I'm not technically unemployed. Technically I'm self employed. But my self pays me very sporadically. Anybody want to host a foreign exchange student? Or want to take a trip overseas? Let me know....my self can help you accomplish that.
So....good times. I've once again realized that what I need is a sugar daddy. Is it sacrilegious to think of God as a sugar daddy? I would think so too.
I don't know if you've noticed the Amazon ads in my blog, but it's just another way I can make some quick cash. So if there's a book you're planning on buying from Amazon. Tell me first, I'll write a blog about it and then you can use my link and make me money at the same time.
Ok, that's really all I have to say. This is starting to get too silly for my own good.
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